First of all- thank you. I'm forever grateful for the couples who trust me with such an important, meaningful day in their lives. It's a big deal to get married, and on top of such a momentous decision, you also happen to be planning a pretty involved party to go along with it. There are countless articles and checklists and well-meaning friends and relatives with lots of advice that can quickly overwhelm you, and I get it. I was once quite overwhelmed myself when I was planning my own wedding- the stress of it probably all caught up with me over napkins or something equally unimportant, and that's kind of the point. I've been married for over a decade now, and I don't remember that stuff. Because at the end of the day, there are some things that ARE important... and some things that just aren't.
I'm asked for advice from couples all the time- about everything from chairs for the ceremony to music at the reception and should-we or shouldn't-we see each other before the wedding. And these are some of the things I tell people- because well-meaning articles and well-meaning aunts don't always help as much as they intended.
- You've probably heard about Unplugged Weddings, and as a photographer, I definitely have some opinions on them. I am always, always onboard with how you want your wedding to feel- and if that's encouraging lots of family and friends to take photos throughout the day, wonderful! But if you're a bit more on the fence, consider having just an Unplugged Ceremony.
- If having beautiful "getting ready" photos is a priority for you, take this into consideration when you make plans for your wedding morning. If you won't be getting ready and/or dressed at your venue, hotel rooms can feel crowded and dark, so look for a bright, open suite with lots of windows... or consider a Bed & Breakfast or AirBnB for a space that feels more roomy and still like home. (Or if you won't have a big gaggle of people coming and going on the morning of your wedding, consider getting ready at home!) Just follow the window light- and if that means you're getting hair and makeup done in your kitchen, tidy it up, hide the clutter, and embrace your kitchen. No matter where you get ready, light + bright = beautiful photos.
- Another tip while getting ready- and something I'll help with on Wedding Day- is to try and keep the clutter confined to one area of the room. Call it a crap corner or a junk spot, and throw all the clutter there. Plastic bags and empty water bottles and garment bags and Starbucks cups will accumulate on every surface in a hotel suite or living room- so every so often, ask a bridesmaid to sweep all those things away and into that corner. A clear space will make you feel better.